Win Your Ex Girlfriend Back - Stage 1 Of 10

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By SamRe

A Complete And Clean Break

The very first thing you must ensure you do after a break up if you want to win your ex girlfriend back is DON'T call her!

Don't even think about calling, texting or e-mailing her...and definitely never make an attempt to see her. This is not the right time and you have plenty of things to do and put in place first if you wish to win your ex girlfriend back.

You now need to really psych yourself up and i would suggest that you make a commitment to yourself to leave your ex girlfriend alone for at least the next month!

If you want to win your ex girlfriend back, you have to start off with a completely clean break. You must make a conscious effort to move on - even if your ultimate goal is to win your ex girlfriend back.

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When i say, make a commitment to yourself, be serious and honest with yourself. Don't get cute and think, i'll just make an attempt to see her one last time and then i'll leave her alone for a month. Or you may even consider contacting her and giving her an ultimatum or telling her this is her last chance or she won't see you for a while. If your goal is to win your ex girlfriend back, please i beg of you don't try and make contact in any way!

No contact means exactly that. Don't try and sneakily talk with her friends or accidently just "show up" where you know your ex girlfriend will be. And definitely no stalking from a distance. Taking any opportunity just to see that she is OK.

No contact means just that - NO CONTACT!

If your ex decides to contact you during this first month after your break, obviously to win your ex girlfriend back you can't just completely ignore her! Keep your conversation to a minimum, but be polite and friendly. Whatever you do, don't bring up your past relationship. If she starts talking about it, very politely tell her you don't wish to talk about it at the moment.

There are obviously extenuating circumstances where you can't avoid contact with your ex girlfriend. For example, you may live together, work together or have children together. Your goal here is to achieve everything you should be doing with the minimum of fuss and definitely drama free. Whatever responsibilities you have, complete these to the best of your ability, but don't ever give your ex girlfriend any reason to start disliking or hating you!

You may be wondering why you have to avoid all contact after a split if you want to win your ex girlfriend back. You must remember emotions are usually running high after a break up and there is always what you could call a "push-pull" dynamic. One of you is always doing the chasing and the other one is always trying to get away. It's just the way things are after a split.

Imagine how your ex girlfriend will feel if she was the one who initiated the break up and then she has to cope with you contacting her everyday and professing your undying love for her. She will just ignore you and push you away further. This, of course, can have a devastating effect on you as well.

So in order to win your ex girlfriend back, remember stage 1 out of 10 is to let the dust settle and avoid all contact for a month!

Comments

Ghost P 22 months ago

wat if she ring you every day what does this mean?

i ask her why do you ring me if you dont want to be with me and she said i love you loads i judt need space and time just to see if i have made to the right dission but it confuseds me when she rings me every daii?

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SamRe Hub Author 22 months ago

Even if your girlfriend was the one to leave you, she will still feel sad and may also need reassurance. It may even make her feel slightly better about herself to know that she has some form of control over your heart.

It's hard to completely break a bond when you love someone. What you can ask her to do next time she phones is to say the exact same thing to her, but be polite, or you may never hear from her again.

Perhaps explain that you are really confused and although you still have feelings for her, you also need some space to see how you truly feel and whether you also feel the right decision has been made.

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